As Psychic/Medium I get people coming to me all the time who do not know how to step forward and nurture their spirit the white cup exercise is a simple way to do just that. I also provide tips for those caught in what I term the bumper car effect

The white cup (mug etc)

Some times we are like an empty cup. We struggle to have a sense of self and say out loud things like " why does my life feel empty" or why can't I make friends". Our soul or our inner world is a cup we fill up with love. Some people have so much it overflows you will know them by the joy you feel in their presence. Some people have so little love their cup is almost dry you will know them by the gray cloud of gloom that follows where-ever they go. What happens when the cup is empty? Often we look to others to fill it and end up in dysfunctional relationship always wanting something from the other person or conversely blaming them for the way we feel. The white cup exercise is about learning to fill your own cup so it overflows with joy and happiness.

1. Purchase a white coffee mug and a black permanent marker
2. Every day think of something you can do for yourself. For example take a long bath or go to the movies or start a class or join a group or simply walk on the beach or go for coffee with a friend or meditate
3. Every time you do something draw a line on the mug making your way up to the top. You are basically watching your cup fill up and very soon it will be overflowing.

DON'T STOP when you reach the top rather use the mug as a reminder to nurture your self physically emotionally and spiritually.

The Bumper car effect

When you step into a bumper car at the fair it feels like no matter which way you turn someone or something hits you when you least expect it. The problem with the bumper cars is you never get time to find your balance or find some space to figure out the best way to go. Here are a few ideas about what you can do when you start to feel this way:

1. Let go of any need to 'fix' things. Let go of any resentment, anger, guilt or shame that has built up.
2. Let go of any expectations in regards to outcomes and other peoples behavior
3. Take a moment or a day to breath ... .put aside issues for awhile focus on things which bring you back into balance.
4. Ask for help. Sometimes we cling to things so tightly so intent on fixing them for ourselves we don't allow anyone to help carry the load so we can gain our balance.

Things to remember:

Everyone no matter what their life circumstance, race, religion or sexual preference was born a Master.

Robin J